18-21 Segment 2: Communicating with School-Aged Boys: A Psychologist’s Advice

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Many parents and educators struggle to connect and communicate with adolescent boys. Dr. Adam Cox, clinical psychologist for over 20 years and author of Cracking the Boy Code: How to understand and talk with boys, explains what he’s learned after devoting his career to engaging with school-aged boys. The majority of young boys are not natural communicators, so Dr. Cox breaks down why this is and what parents can do differently to have better conversations with their sons.

Dr. Cox narrows down the reason for boys’ difficulty in engaging in serious conversations.  He says they often process language primarily through the left-hemisphere of the brain, which deals with just the facts, as opposed to the right-hemisphere of the brain, which deals with social-perceptual skills. As a result of this, many boys miss nonverbal social cues.

In our society, boys are often reduced to their behavioral problems. Dr. Cox says that this is unfair and that boys are capable of being strong communicators if approached in the right way. The single most important factor he names for better conversations is to be aware of tone of voice. He names this strategy “Task Tone,” a matter-of-fact, somewhat monotonous, and logical way of speaking that appeals to the left-hemisphere of the brain. He also says that eye contact during moments of vulnerability often does more harm than good.

By setting the table correctly for good conversations, many adults can be surprised at how school-aged boys can become more open and vulnerable. Without a moralistic tone and an excessive focus on behavioral issues, Dr. Cox says we can then focus on issues that really matter to a boy’s psychology, such as strength and honor. He has developed a saying for the boys he works with to remember: “Strength to do what’s right, the honor to do it well.”

To learn more about communicating with boys or to purchase a copy of Dr. Cox’s book, visit the links below.

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  • Dr. Adam Cox, a clinical psychologist and author of Cracking the Boy Code: How to understand and talk with boys

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18-03 Segment 2: Our Unconscious Minds

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We like to think we’re in control of our own actions… but are we? We talk to Dr. John Bargh, a professor of psychology at Yale University and author of Before You Know It: The unconscious reasons we do what we do, to discuss just how much of what we do is dictated by our unconscious minds.

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  • Dr. John Bargh, Professor of psychology at Yale University, author, Before You Know It: The unconscious reasons we do what we do

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16-26 Segment 1: Grit: The passion and perseverance to succeed

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Why is it that some people succeed and others don’t? There are many reasons why we follow through on the tasks we begin, but our guest thinks that those who do succeed in the big things in life have something called “grit.” We discuss how passion, hope and perseverance all play into the ability for some individuals to keep on course –even when they face hurdles in their lives and their work — and accomplish great things.

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15-23 Story 1: The Psychology of Climate Change

Synopsis: We’ve heard a lot about climate change and global warming over the past 20 years or so, but ironically people care about it less now than they did a decade ago! We talk to a researcher and author about how the framing of climate change can skew the message and create attitudes that affect how we think of global warming and how we become motivated – or not – to do something about it.

Host: Gary Price. Guest: Per Espen Stoknes, psychologist, economist, author of What We Think About When We Try Not to Think About Global Warming: Toward a new psychology of climate action.

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